Looking for a little clarity in your life? Want to find some perspective to help you make decisions and navigate situations?

Here are 20 paradoxes that could help give you some insight into your life and your choices.

1) The best things in life can’t be bought

Healthy, happiness, family, friends: you can’t put a price on these things. Stop chasing material possessions in search of happiness. Everything you need is right in front of you.

2) Choice paralyzes us

When we are faced with too many options, we’ll often choose the wrong one or make a choice just to be done with it. Make a decision and move forward.

3) When you stop looking for happiness, you find it

Sometimes everything you need to be happy is right in front of you…all you have to do is just open your eyes.

4) When you stop trying to find solutions, you find them

Stop wracking your brain and let it be with its own thoughts for a while. Before you know it, you’ll find the solution is right in front of you.

5) You don’t know what you have until it’s gone

This is true of everything in life: you favorite pair of jeans, an ice cream cone that fell on the ground, you precious granny Sue. All things have an expiry date so enjoy them while you can.

6) The more you do, the less you get done

Taking on too much at once is counterproductive even for a skilled multitasker. Focus on one thing at a time and you’ll get more done in a day, week and a year.

7) What goes around comes around

You’ll get out of life what you put into it, so don’t sit idle and let life pass you by. Be nice to people and yourself. Otherwise, it could come back to bite you in the behind.

8) The more control you want, the less you have

Helplessness is a horrible feeling, but sometimes we have to let go of things to gain perspective on how to move forward. Stop trying to control everyone and everything.

9) Fiction can change reality

Things that aren’t real or that we can’t prove are real can bring us a great deal of joy: stories that aren’t true but make us feel good, art that has no impact on life except to provide joy, and faith. You can’t see it but you feel it.

10) We’re the same, but different

Everyone is different but everyone wants the same things: to be loved, safe, and happy. Respect how people go about getting those things in life and we’ll all be better off.

11) The more you sleep, the more tired you’ll be

Sure, this one isn’t fair but it’s true. Get up with the sun and go to bed with the birds and you’ll be happier and well rested for it.

12) You can only change when you accept who you are

When you accept yourself as you are, you are better prepared to take on the responsibilities and work associated with change. It comes from a place of love and not hate.

13) The more you run from a problem the bigger it will be

Fate always catches up with us. So if you owe your taxes, pay them. If you haven’t called your mom in years, call her. Don’t ignore what needs fixing.

14) Question what you think you know

The world tells us to question what we see, but not what we think we know. We can change our own minds if we question what is in them.

15) Eat more, lose more

What a concept: eat better foods with more nutrients and minerals and good for you fats, and you can lose more weight than a diet of lettuce and tomato.

16) Improve commutes with less roads

Reducing choice leads to more effective movements in life and on the road.

17) When you stop looking for love, you find it

As with most things in life, what you need is usually right in front of you. Enjoy life and love will come your way.

18) A watched pot never boils

Things take longer when you wait. Stop waiting and start living.

19) Talk less, say more

People who talk a lot usually don’t have much to say. Speak when you have something important to say.

20) Don’t cry over spilled milk

I mean, you could, but really, there’s no going back.