Oral Sex

8 Signs that Sex with Someone Is About to Get Even Better

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Don’t give up on a good thing too soon.

It’s a common scenario: you’re hooking up with someone for the first time or maybe the third, and the sex is *fine* — but it’s not ~great~. You like this person, but aren’t sure if the chemistry (or their sexual skill) merits giving them another shot. While fireworks may not be exploding over your bed as an orchestra swells, there are a few telltale signs that if you stick with it, sex with them is about to get a hell of a lot more fun. Here’s what to watch for.

1. They take their time on foreplay instead of rushing to the main event.

Someone who doesn’t power through (or completely skip) all of the wonderful things you two can do in bed besides vaginal sex — making out, oral, fingering — is onto something. An orgasm for you, for example: research shows that the “golden trio” of “genital stimulation, deep kissing, and oral sex” is exponentially more likely to make you orgasm than a penis thrusting in and out of your vagina. No surprise there. Even if your hookup doesn’t know exactly how to touch you during foreplay (yet), their willingness to explore and spend time turning you on is a very good sign for the future.

2. During sex, they ask questions.

Specifically things like, “How does this feel?” and “What can I do to make you feel good?” If they’re checking in with you during the act and requesting feedback, you have good reason to believe they’re invested in your pleasure and not just getting their own rocks off. Hookups often follow such a predictable script that partners can get away with going through the motions and not really talking at all. If you found someone who won’t skate by on the hookup script, they’ll likely be open to more in-depth conversations about your preferences and desires when your clothes *on*, too.

3. They use your feedback in real time.

“Touch me a little to the left,” you say, and — lo and behold! — they actually touch you a little to the left. Even if they’re not totally nailing your instructions every time, they’re listening to you and really trying. A good student makes a good sex partner if they get the opportunity to study up.

4. They do something you said you liked the last time you hooked up.

Congratulations, you’re not sleeping with a goldfish but rather a human being with functioning longterm memory! If one night you describe exactly how you like to be kissed and then three nights later your partner kisses you that way unprompted, you know they’re paying attention not only in the moment but over time — which bodes very well for an eventually explosive sex life.

5. They don’t take feedback as criticism.

If your partner acts hurt or offended when you offer suggestions in bed, that’s a serious red flag. When their ego is all tied up in their “performance,” they’re not thinking of sex as a shared adventure but as a way to show off their skills. Which is way less fun for everyone. Bad responses to you speaking up in bed: “I can never get it right” (ugh, throw your pity party somewhere else); “No one else has complained about the way I do this” (what does that have to do with me?); Have you always had trouble orgasming?” (excuse me?!?). Good responses: “It’s so sexy when you tell me what you want”; “I love f*cking love turning you on.”

6. They’re not intimidated by sex toys.

If you’ve brought up the idea of trying sex toys with your partner and they’ve been receptive, or if they’ve brought up the idea themselves, it’s an indication that they won’t be shy about trying new things with you. Some people see a partner’s interest in sex toys as a hint that they’re underperforming in bed, but that so doesn’t have to be the case: accessories can make a sexual dynamic more fun and rewarding no matter how good it is to start. And if your new partner is open to some wall-charged fun, imagine what other fantasies you two will share as you get to know each other.

7. They wouldn’t dream of getting oral without offering it in return.

Or, better yet, they ask if they can go down on you before you’ve even gone down on them. So, fine, once they get down there maybe it’s not the BEST ORAL of your ENTIRE LIFE — but their enthusiasm suggests their willingness to practice until it is. Score.

8. They ask you before trying something new instead of just going for it.

It might not seem like a big deal if your partner speaks up before switching positions or touching you in a new way. But if they’re regularly seeking your (enthusiastic) go-ahead, you know that not only is consent important to them, it’s already baked into their approach to sex. Sex for them is about more than getting permission. It’s about making sure you’re both having a great time.

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Oral Sex and HIV Risk

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Fast Facts

  • There is little to no risk of getting or transmitting HIV from oral sex.
  • Other STDs and hepatitis can be transmitted during oral sex.
  • Latex barriers and medicines to prevent and treat HIV can further reduce the very low risk of getting HIV from oral sex.

Oral sex involves using the mouth to stimulate the penis (fellatio), vagina (cunnilingus), or anus (anilingus).

Risk of HIV

The chance an HIV-negative person will get HIV from oral sex with an HIV-positive partner is extremely low. However, it is hard to know the exact risk because a lot of people who have oral sex also have anal or vaginal sex. The type of oral sex that may be the riskiest is mouth-to-penis oral sex. But the risk is still very low, and much lower than with anal or vaginal sex.

Though the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is low, several factors may increase that risk, including sores in the mouth or vagina or on the penis, bleeding gums, oral contact with menstrual blood, and the presence of other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

Risk of Other Infections

Other STDs, such as syphilis, herpes, gonorrhea and chlamydia, can be transmitted during oral sex. Anilingus can also transmit hepatitis A and B, intestinal parasites like Giardia, and bacteria like E. coli.

Reducing the Risk

Individuals can further reduce the already low risk of HIV transmission from oral sex by keeping their male partners from ejaculating in their mouth. This could be done by removing the mouth from the penis before ejaculation, or by using a condom.

Using a barrier like a condom or dental dam during oral sex can further reduce the risk of transmitting HIV, other STDs, and hepatitis. A dental dam is a thin, square piece of latex or silicone that is placed over the vagina or anus during oral sex. A latex condom can also be cut length-wise and used like a dental dam.

The risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is even lower if the HIV-negative partner is taking medicine to prevent HIV (pre-exposure prophylaxis or PrEP) or the HIV-positive partner is taking medicine to treat HIV (antiretroviral therapy or ART) and is virally suppressed.

From Causing Cancer To Treating Depression, 6 Little-Known Facts About Oral Sex

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Before the Clinton years and well after the Michael Douglas days, the notion of oral sex has been considered taboo. Now, oral sex is more openly discussed in movies, TV shows, and magazines as a pleasurable part of a healthy adult relationship. However, there’s much about oral sex that sexually active people should know before performing fellatio or cunnilingus on their partner.

Couple having sex on bed

In the U.S., 27 percent of men and 19 percent of women have had oral sex in the past year, according to a 2010 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB).  Meanwhile in 2012, two-thirds of young Americans aged 15 to 24 have engaged in oral sex. Most of these young adults have tried oral sex before they engage in intercourse because of the popular misconception that oral sex is “risk-free,” but that’s not the case.

The surprising facts below will clarify misinformation surrounding sex, especially oral sex, and what can happen to the human body.

1. Men give oral sex as much as they receive it, especially older men.

Contrary to popular belief, men, especially older men, give as much oral sex to women as women give to men. A 2010 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found only 55 percent of men in the 20 to 24-year-old range admitted to giving oral sex in the past year compared to 75 percent of women. In the 30 to 39 age range, 69 percent of men have given women oral sex compared to 59 percent of women. This pattern suggests that the more you age, the more reciprocal you are in oral sex.

2. Giving oral sex can lower the risk of preeclampsia.

Pregnant women who perform oral sex on their male partner can lower their risk of preeclampsia. A 2000 study published in the Journal of Reproductive Immunology found women a strong correlation between a diminished incidence of preeclampsia and the frequency at which a woman practices oral sex. If a woman had relatively little prior exposure to the father’s semen, she would have a higher risk of developing the condition compared to if she performed oral sex and swallowed his semen.

The researchers believe this occurs because of the development of immunological tolerance via oral insertion and gastrointestinal absorption of the semen. This supports the notion that a greater frequency of sex with the same partner who is the father of a woman’s child, can significantly decrease her chances of developing preeclampsia. The pregnancy complication is characterized by high blood pressure, and can sometimes be accompanied by fluid retention and proteinuria.

3. Swallowing semen during oral sex can ease pregnancy morning sickness.

Typically, the nausea that occurs during the first few months of pregnancy, morning sickness, can be remedied with a teaspoon of ginger or mint. However, a 2012 paper written by SUNY-Albany psychologist Gordon Gallup suggests pregnant women who swallow the father’s semen can actually cure their episodes of morning sickness.  The woman’s body will first reject the father’s semen upon ingestion as an infection and then react to it by vomiting, according to Gallup. After this, the woman’s body will build up a tolerance to it and alleviate the morning sickness symptoms.

4. Sperm via oral sex can lower the risk of depression.

Semen’s mood altering chemicals can elevate mood, increase affection, and ward off depression. A 2012 study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior found seminal fluid may contain antidepressant properties and may significantly lower depression in women who had oral sex and sexual intercourse. The researchers also noted women who described themselves as “promiscuous” yet used condoms, were as depressed as women who practice absinthe. This implies how it’s not the semen, not the sex that made the women in this study happy.

5. Oral sex can give you cancer.

The link between oropharynx cancers and HPV has been growing overtime in the U.S. A 2011study published in the Journal of Clinical Oncology found the proportion of cancers associated with human papillomavirus (HPV) rose from 16 percent to 72 percent from the late 1980s to the early 2000s, particularly among Caucasian middle-age men. The sexually transmitted disease (STI) can cause genital warts or present itself without symptoms. If it’s left untreated, it can also cause cancers including cervix, anus, penis, vagina, and head and neck, among many others.

6. You can get STDs from oral sex.

STDs are commonly transmitted through vagina and anal sex, but unprotected oral sex can also put you at risk for them. HPV, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and hepatitis B can all be spread through oral sex. According to Planned Parenthood, the human immunodeficiency virus is less likely to be transmitted through this.

Oral sex is still sex and should always be performed with caution and preferably with a condom on to reduce the transmission of STDs.