Gratitude is Good for the Heart and Soul


Gratitude is Good for the Heart and Soul

A new study discovered the more grateful you are, the lower your risk of heart attack. Is there a recipe for gratitude? Learn what highly grateful people do differently from the rest.

“Gratitude opens the door to the power, the wisdom, and the creativity of the Universe” –  Deepak Chopra

It is well known that mental and physical health are closely intertwined, but new data suggests your attitude may have a major influence yourheart attack risk. The latest science reveals that a “grateful heart” is a healthy heart.

Dr. Paul Mills of the University of California San Diego School of Medicine has been researching the connection between mental health and heart health for decades.[1] A positive attitude is associated with lower heart disease risk because it reduces stress, anxiety and depression, all of which contribute to cardiovascular disease.

But what about gratitude and your heart? To answer this question, Mills designed a study.[2] He recruited 186 men and women with heart disease and came up with a gratitude questionnaire.

What he learned was, the more grateful people are, the healthier they are. Mills also performed blood tests to measure inflammation levels.Inflammation strongly correlates with the buildup of arterial plaque and the development of heart disease. Interestingly, the most grateful individuals showed the lowest inflammatory markers.

Mills then dug in deeper with a follow-up study involving gratitude journaling. After two months, individuals with a history heart disease who kept gratitude journals enjoyed a decrease in their overall cardiac risk, whereas a non-journaling group did not. Mills isn’t certain how gratitude helps the heart but believes the key may be reduced stress.[3]

These results aren’t surprising in light of previous studies linking negative emotional states with increased risk of heart attack and stroke. A 2012 review of 200 studies by the Harvard School of Public Health[4]concluded that optimism and happiness do indeed reduce cardiovascular risk.

Gratitude Offers Benefits for Both Mind and Body

Robert A. Emmons heads up a long-term research project designed to create and disseminate scientific data on the nature of gratitude, its causes and potential consequences for human health and well-being.[5][6] Neuroscientist Emiliana Simon-Thomas, the science director of Greater Good Science Center (GGSC) at UC Berkeley, works alongside Emmons in the study of gratitude. Simon-Thomas reports:[7]

“After eight weeks of practice, brain scans of individuals who practice gratitude have stronger brain structure for social cognition and empathy, as well as the part of the brain that processes reward.”

Simon-Thomas has also seen gratitude relieve symptoms of post-traumatic stress and helps individuals with PTSD recover more quickly. Studies involving trauma survivors (Vietnam vets and 9/11) have found gratitude to be a significant factor in healing from trauma.[8] [9]

In a blurb about the radio special The Science of Gratitude,[10] UC Berkeley’s online magazine Greater Good says the prescription for happiness can be distilled into one simple recommendation: Say thank you. But happiness is only the tip of the iceberg! Research reveals gratitude comes with an impressive array of benefits, including the following:56[11] [12]

Improved personal and work relationships[13]

Better physical health

Greater empathy, sensitivity, and connectedness with others

Higher self esteem

Increased happiness

Better self care

Increased mental strength and resilience

Higher optimism

Better sleep; plus, good night’s sleep also promotes gratitude[14]

Reduced stress and anxiety

Diminished aggression

Less focus on material goods

Is There a Recipe for a Grateful Heart?

I am particularly fond of the way editor Jeremy Adam Smith describes gratitude in a Greater Good article:[15]

“Gratitude (and its sibling, appreciation) is the mental tool we use to remind ourselves of the good stuff. It’s a lens that helps us to see the things that don’t make it onto our lists of problems to be solved. It’s a spotlight we shine on the people who give us the good things in life.”

Believing he lacked a bit of discipline in the gratitude department, Smith put together a list of six traits he believes set “fantastically grateful people” apart from the rest:

1.    Once in a while, they think about death and loss. Also known as “mental subtraction,” this involves acknowledging what we do have by reflecting upon what might NOT have been. It’s not about doom and gloom, but developing appreciation by looking at all possibilities.

2.    They take the time to smell the roses. Savoring positive experiences makes them stick more in the brain. Have you ever noticed that the first sip of coffee tastes the best? We have a tendency to adapt to pleasurable things, enjoying them less over time—a phenomenon called “hedonic adaptation.” The remedy is to temporarily give up the practice.[16]

3.    They take the good things as gifts, not birthrights. The opposite of gratitude is entitlement. A preoccupation with the self will quickly quash any feelings of thankfulness.

4.    They’re grateful for people, not just things. Expressing gratitude to others strengthens social bonds and increases trust, compassion and affection.

5.    They mention the pancakes. Grateful people are very specific in their expressions of gratitude, which makes those expressions feel more authentic. For example, they would say, “I love you for making me pancakes on Saturday mornings when you know I’ve had a rough week,” rather than, “I love you because you’re wonderful.”

6.    They thank outside the box. This is not a denial of negativity, but rather a way of thinking about the world that turns obstacles into opportunities.

Ideas for Starting a Gratitude Practice

The practice of gratitude is about slowing down and looking deeply into your life—past, present and future. In addition to looking for gifts in the present, additional gratitude opportunities are cultivated by retrieving memories from the past and developing a positive outlook for the future.[17] The following are a few suggestions for developing a gratitude practice:

·      Say thank you. Write short thank you notes often. For an even greater impact, write one detailed gratitude letter per month. Consider occasionally writing one to yourself.

·      Thank someone mentally. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts.

·      Keep a gratitude journal. Before bed, spend a few minutes writing down things for which you are grateful. Once or twice a week is plenty. Focusing on interpersonal relationships, as opposed to material things, has been shown to be more impactful.[18]

·      Create a gratitude jar. On a slip of paper, write down what you are grateful for each day, and place it in a jar. On a difficult day, pull out and reread a few as gratitude reminders.

·      Mealtime thankfulness. Practice sharing your daily gratitudes with your family during the evening meal.

·      Meditate or pray. It’s much harder to tune in when you’redoing, so set aside some time for just being. Meditation offers a panoply of benefits, including thinking more logically and clearly from multiple perspectives.

Be Grateful: A Different Way of Looking at Gratitude


Be Grateful: A Different Way of Looking at GratitudeBe grateful…thankful…feel blessed – this is the only way to manifest something new in life.

Seems to be every one’s mantra these days. I almost can’t say it anymore. When did this start? When were we ever not grateful for what we have? Just because I was complaining didn’t mean I was not grateful or thankful for my life.

I believe this all started from the books that said – in order to manifest something in your life you have to be in a place of gratitude. While there is nothing wrong with that, it is now as common as “Have a nice day… Be grateful.”

But I wonder – do we really feel grateful, in our souls, truly thankful for where we are? How can we? When the state of gratitude has only been created to manifest a new reality. When we are hoping for something else, something to take us out of a situation that is causing us to manifest something new – can we really feel the gratitude we are supposed to feel?

Like when we say “Have a nice day.” Do we really mean it anymore?

Sadly, like playing the game telephone, somewhere the message of being grateful was misunderstood. And so, we’ve started using gratitude all wrong.

In my twenties I read the Four Agreements, The Alchemist, Think and Grow Rich and Victor Frankel’s Pursuit of Happiness. These books gave me the courage to believe that I could do anything; they also made me understand that it was my state of mind that would get me there.

Fast forward 15 years and I was an intentional single mom, made six figures, rented a 3 bedroom home and had a high end car. Never really stopping to be grateful for what I had. Not that I wasn’t happy, I was, but this idea of being grateful all the time seemed a bit abnormal. But in 2015, all the books I was reading said that in order for a change to occur in my life, I had to be grateful for what I did have, thankful for my life, say affirmations every day to get into that grateful state of mind. Me, the old fashioned yoga, meditation person didn’t really quite know how to do it; be grateful all the time to manifest something. Hmmmmm, so if I don’t have a boyfriend, and want a boyfriend, I had to be happy on my own. Well if I truly was, I wouldn’t want a boyfriend, right?

Okay, I will give this a try, so what do I like about my job, let me write all the positive aspects down. I tried, wrote down all my happy thoughts, things I am grateful for, affirmations, said them daily but to no avail, nothing changed. Put it this way, in the Sex in the City episode, when Carrie finally stands up to the famous positive affirmation speaker lady saying that Charlotte did do everything in the book, said all the affirmations, prayed, listened, all to meet the man of her dreams, and…it still didn’t work – I felt vindicated. It was almost like Carrie Bradshaw was talking about me.

So what was wrong? Where was the disconnect? What was embedded in me that I wasn’t in genuine gratitude? On a conscious level I wanted change – what was going on unconsciously?

In my search, I stumbled on body or muscle testing techniques – just look for muscle testing on line and you will find several different ways to test what you believe is true, for you. In other words, you get toask yourself questions and find out what you really think.

Much to my surprise, well not really, I didn’t think highly enough of myself.

Clearly, my past had an impact on my state of mind in the present – both good and bad.

Right, great, so now how was I going to be in a state of gratitude and manifest something if I didn’t really feel like it could happen in my core.

I began to realize that we give a lot of people control over how we feel and rarely take responsibility to own up to why they are making us feel this way. What bothers me doesn’t bother you – have you ever wondered why? There are things I can deal with easily, for one, being alone doesn’t bother me at all, other people – it terrifies them, they always have to be around people.

So I kept a keen watch on what I was feeling inside. What things or events brought about panic, fear,happiness, sadness in my daily life, and then I would ask myself what does this remind you of, where is that feeling stemming from?

Once you find the origin of the feeling, you can be conscious of the fact that you are no longer physically there. Whether it was something your mom or dad used to say to you, or an ex did to you, you are probably no longer there physically but the emotional ramifications stayed, and now, when something makes you feel as you felt during those moments, you’re stuck in the past and cannot be grateful for your present. Once we can identify this feeling – you can find your own way, through a healer, or praying, or affirmations to start healing the energy around the past trauma, not the present trauma because that is simply the fruit of the seed.

After this process, I started to feel genuine gratitude for my present, and not subconsciously lament about things from my past.

So, of course, now you are thinking you have a lot of work ahead of you. Well, actually, I managed to figure out a short cut to truly feeling grateful and happy. Here’s the thing they never told you – when you cannot be grateful for anything else be thankful for you.

No, no no, not be grateful for yourself in that passive way. I mean yell that you are the best thing that has ever happened to you. Do not get confused. I am not talking about your surroundings, nope, your children, best friend or spouse, YOU! This isn’t the love yourself feeling. This is hands down, on my knees, kiss yourself whew you made it through something and as tattered up as you are, I’m gonna kiss myself because if it was anyone else, they wouldn’t have handled it like me.

Whatever you have managed to live through, abuse, death, break-ups, financial losses, you have to remember you have YOURSELF and that is a lot! Or at least try to start seeing that as a lot. Trust me – it will work, when you are just feeling at your worst, and feel hopeless just say it – I am thankful for me, keep saying it for a minute and see what power it gives you – what strength rises from the inside. Feel it so much that you want to cry. How many things, people, situations have brought you to tears, can your own strength and love for yourself bring you to tears? Try it – and see if you can feel the passion for yourself that you feel towards something you want to change.

5 Ways to Creating Genuine Human Connections.


A person’s worth is not defined by their job, it’s defined by how kind their soul is.  ~Tejal Patel of Astitva Seekers

In the past year, I changed my role as a practicing attorney to small business owner of a banquet facility called The Washington.  Though I have attended events, planned parties and dined at restaurants, this is my first experience managing a catering and event planning business.

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Providing impeccable service and food is the foundation of our business. No matter what our intentions, if we didn’t have a server team that followed our philosophy, our vision wouldn’t be carried through.  I spent a lot of time building a server team who fits with our philosophy of providing, kind, courteous and helpful service to our guests. This was no easy task.

During some of the events, I was appalled to see how some of my best servers were treated by the guests. Orders were barked at them, no please or thank you’s and I heard some people make rude comments based on how my servers looked.

My servers are mothers, fathers, teachers, business owners, or college graduates struggling to find a job in this economy. A lot of them have full time jobs and do this for extra cash. Some of them are people who we personally know, who have full time careers but help us in a bind when we are short staffed. At their regular jobs, they aren’t treated as poorly.

Watching hardworking and kind people being treated in a rude manner had me question…

What happened to simple and kind human connections?

We talk on our cell-phone when placing an order at our coffee shop or fast food joint. It’s as if we don’t have five seconds to give the person servicing us our undivided attention. We don’t make eye contact with cashiers, bellboys or servers. We allow our children to talk down to the receptionist or secretary but talk with the utmost professionalism with the doctor/boss. We don’t even feel comfortable smiling and sparking a conversation with the person living in your apartment building.

How did we become a society that associates a person’s worth based on the job they have, how much money they make or how they look?

Make it your daily mantra to find ways to Spread Love and Connect to everyone you meet during the day. ~Tejal Patel of Astitva Seekers

After seeing how my staff was being treated, it opened my eyes on how I have been disconnected and judging those around me. I made a conscious effort to wake up each morning with the mission to spread love and kindness to all those I meet.

How to Create Connection:

1. Remember the manners your Momma taught you

When someone is providing you a service or is helping you, don’t forget your manners. Make sure you are giving them your undivided attention at that moment, actively listen and remember those please and thank you!

2. Look everyone in the eyes when you speak to them

We need to stop dehumanizing people and take a moment to look them in the eyes when interacting with them. You may realize how many of us feel uncomfortable looking others in the eyes.

The eyes are the windows of the soul. It is hard to judge someone based on external factors like their job and how they look if we are focusing on their eyes and the radiance and life that shines through. We can connect to people on a whole new level when we appreciate that we are all equal not superior or inferior to anyone.

3. If you appreciated what someone did for you, let them know

If you appreciate someone’s service or kindness, make it your intention to tell them. If your server did a remarkable job give them a good tip AND tell their manager. So many times we take for granted when someone does something nice for us or they go above and beyond what they should do. Go beyond the “Thank You” and really express how their actions made you feel. Knowing you made an impression on someone makes that person want to continue to be kind. By you acknowledging their positive qualities you’ll feel amazing and want to be a better person as well. It will begin a circle of kindness and spreading love!

4. If someone gives bad service, don’t react with negativity, stay calm

Its easy to be kind to people who are nice to you. The real challenge comes when people are rude and give you bad service. When dealing with a bitter person ask:

If you knew what someone was going through in their life would you treat them differently?

We don’t know what’s happening in others life for them to react the way they do. Don’t take the rudeness of others personally. Their actions has everything to do with their own unhappiness which they are projecting to others. There were days that you weren’t having the best day and might have treated people poorly. Don’t justify your poor behavior based on how someone else reacts. The most difficult people need the most kindness to break their pain. Be compassionate to someone who you don’t think deserves it. Not only will you help them, your peace of mind and compassion grows with each kind act.

5. Learn to say hi and smile at strangers

You would be surprised how much it warms your heart to receive a kind smile from an unknown person. It’s almost as good as getting attention from the person you have a crush on. You feel connected and one with them at that moment. You share that moment with someone you don’t know.

We tend to be caught in our mind, look down and pretend not to see others. Look up, smile and embrace the people passing you by. I’ve had some pretty amazing moments with strangers by simply feeling their warmth and smile of their kind hello. It does marvels for your day and helps you grow the feeling of connection with others.

My experience of owning a banquet hall opened my eyes to the importance of connecting not only with your family and friends, but also strangers and people serving you. Whether we know someone for 30 seconds or 70 years, make an effort to kindly and compassionately connect to every person who is present in your life.

Source: Purpose Fairy

 

The 11 Step Guide to Spreading Love.


There is nothing like the vibration of LOVE. It makes us feel good and it makes others feel good.  Couple it with the frequency of gratitude and you have a winning formula for life!

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed. ~Carl Jung

What can you do to start smearing love all over this planet?  Well, it only takes one tiny act to begin the snowball of heart-felt love.  Why not try a few of these ideas to open up your heart space and allow others to experience what true unconditional love feels like.

1. Be Kind

Do random acts of genuine kindness.  You can smile more when you walk down the street, open doors for strangers (even women can open doors for men — ladies can be gentlemen too!), give a genuine compliment.  I’ll leave the rest up to your spontaneity and imagination.

2. Spread Love Like Butter!

Illustrate love whenever you can.  This can be in the form of a silent blessing or a simple touch to show you care.  You can just be present and truly listen to someone without the need to speak — this is an incredibly loving and somewhat overlooked gesture. When you do speak, let your words melt upon listening ears and drip with tender, loving gentleness.

3. Be the Mirror

Try to notice yourself in others and aim to perceive that we are all a part of God.  Send love to everyone, especially those who irritate, provoke or scare you.  Feed people with fear and they will become fearsome, feed them with love and they will become loving.

4. Extend Yourself

See your brothers and sisters all over the world as your extended family.  We all intrinsically have one ultimate goal — to live in joy, love and peace.  Some have a strange way of showing it but they may be so lost in darkness that they have forgotten what radiance looks like.  It is up to you to show them the light instead of judging or criticizing their path.   Love is going to be the only solution to hatred, war and destruction, not complaints and judgments.

5. Love all Life

Express acts of love and kindness to animals, plants and insects too, we are their guardians.  All life has the signature of our creator embedded in their fabric.  Remember this when you feel the urge to destroy something willy-nilly.  Ask yourself if it is necessary?  Your awareness is the key to unlocking your heart centre.

6. Offer Acknowledgement

Recognise others by saying ‘hello’ or dishing out your most debonair greeting smile.  People love to be acknowledged and this can have a profound effect on their day and all the other people they interact with from thereon out.

7. Just Plain Give

Practice giving without the need for receiving.  You don’t have to spend a lot of money to give.  Giving could be in the form of a poem, a prayer, a generous and thoughtful act, a bunch of wild flowers, the giving of your attention or time.

8. The Gratitude Train

Give thanks for all the things that are going right in your life.  We so often harp on the things that are going wrong for us.  We take too little time bringing into our awareness all that is marvelous — like the roof over your head, the warm and comfortable bed you sleep in to the fridge full of groceries you may have.  These simple things are luxury items to others and the more you are grateful for your blessings, the more blessings you will receive to continue your vibration of gratitude.  This is how the universe works.

9. See Your Lessons

Give thanks for all the mistakes you have made in your life that taught you valuable lessons.  The strong and capable person you are today has arisen from the ashes of what went wrong yesterday.  Be the phoenix and always gracefully emerge from the flames with your head held high and a fire of passion in your heart.

10. Hug Thy Neighbour!

Give away free hugs whenever you see the opportunity.  Humans are tactile beings (well, at least some of us anyway) and the value of appropriate physical contact can be just what someone may need from you.

11. Appreciate Love in Return

Always let the special people in your life know that they are appreciated.  It is sad that the ones closest to our hearts can be the ones that are the most neglected.  Remember to hug, kiss and verbalize your love every morning (or whenever you see them).  Yes, that means no grunting on the way to the coffee machine, you need to pick up your sleepy head and plant one on their cheek (provided you have remembered to brush those teeth first)!

Now is as good a time as any to get out there and extend your lovable self to others.  Why don’t you share with us any ideas and remedies you have come up with to infect this planet with love.

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